Episode 636: TLP 636: How to Be a Courageous Parent

In the same way, there are many, many, many promises made to many people all throughout the Bible. We need to be careful claiming them for ourselves. Parenting isn't about us. In fact, parenting isn't even about our kids.

Parenting as Worship and the Need for Courage

Parenting is just one way Christian dads and moms are to worship God. So welcome to the Truth Love Parent podcast, where we train dads and moms to give God the preeminence in their parenting. We are just a few weeks away from the end of Season 35, and I'm so excited about our topics for Season 36.

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Those items are there to help you further your study of today's topic. And speaking of today's topic, let's dive right in. Parenting can be a scary thing. We parents can be tempted to be afraid of Satan and his forces, our culture, our government, our children's influences, our own inadequacies, and quite often, we're tempted to be afraid of our own children.

But the most oft-repeated command in the whole of Scripture is, fear not. Perfect love drives out fear, and God has not given us a spirit of fear. Therefore, we need to pursue courage. That's what we need.

We need to be more courageous parents. And that's what we're going to discuss today. We're going to lay the groundwork for courageous parenting, and then we're going to include a lot of amazing resources in the description so that you can study the other necessary facets of this conversation, like the nature of fear, peace in your parenting, and the like.

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And just so you know, we're striving to be courageous over here. We trust that the Lord knows what He's doing and that whatever He ordains is going to be best for our lives, and we're not afraid. And speaking of being courageous, let's read Joshua 1, 1 through 9.

Joshua 1 and the Historical Context of God's Promises

Now it's going to seem like a longer passage, and it might seem easy to not pay close attention, but of everything you're going to hear today, God's inscripturated Word is the most important. Now it came about after the death of Moses, the servant of Yahweh, that Yahweh spoke to Joshua, the son of Nun.

Moses' attendant, saying, No man will be able to stand before you all the days of your life. Just as I have been with Moses, I will be with you. I will not fail you or forsake you. Be strong and courageous, for you shall cause this people to inherit the land which I swore to their fathers to give them.

Only be strong and very courageous to be careful to do according to all the law which Moses my servant commanded you. Do not turn aside from the right or to the left, so that you may be prosperous wherever you go.

This book of the law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do according to all that is written in it. For then you will make your way successful, and then you will be prosperous.

Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be in dread or be dismayed, for Yahweh your God is with you wherever you go. For starters, when we read passages like this, we need to consider,.

1. The historical context. Letter A. God's promises to specific people cannot be applied to other people unless additional biblical passages explain or illustrate that application. We modern audiences are not to cross the river Jordan and drive out the Canaanites.

God is not promising that any of us, if we're not Jews, will inherit the promised land. God is not telling us that no man will be able to stand against us. God is not promising to be with any of us like he was with Moses.

Things are different in the New Testament dispensation. God interacts with us differently, and he has different promises for us. Now, that doesn't mean that the Old Testament has no value for us. It has tremendous value as a revelation of who God is.

Jesus himself is a revelation of the Father, and the Old Testament is a gorgeous revelation of the Godhead that helps us better love him and understand the New Testament. However, when God promised that Mary would give birth to the Messiah, none of us should think that we can claim that promise for ourselves.

In the same way, there are many, many, many promises made to many people all throughout the Bible, and we need to be careful claiming them for us. This passage promises Joshua that if he obeyed the Lord, he would be prosperous wherever he went, and the Old Testament frequently sets the terms of that prosperity.

That material prosperity is not for us. The prosperity gospel, the health and wealth preachers are lying when they say that God wants us to be rich and material prosperous and overcome all of our physical enemies on this earth.

They'll quote passages like this and lead well-meaning but biblically ignorant people astray into materialism, all the while padding their own pockets. This is why it's mandatory that we modern Christians understand letter B, God's promises to the New Testament believers are not tangible, but spiritual.

God does promise us great and precious things. He does promise to make us prosper. But nowhere in the New Testament do we see promises of tangible, material prosperity and blessing. Instead, we see promises of tribulation and persecution and trials and distresses and hatred.

It happened to Jesus. It will happen to us. God has never promised you that you will be physically healthy or rich. If you follow him, he's never promised you that your kids will turn out perfect if you just do certain things.

He tells you that you will be hated by the same people who hated him. However, God does promise us spiritual wealth, spiritual health, spiritual bounty, and spiritual prosperity. He promises us grace, strength, mercy, salvation, sanctification, peace, joy, contentment, gratitude, righteousness, and a slew of other spiritual blessings like the fruit of the Spirit and the evidences of spiritual life in 2 Peter.

It's important for us to recognize that God commanded Joshua to do certain things in order to attain the promises the Lord had given him. And we know from other passages of Scripture that though the promises to us may be different, God expects us to do the exact same things Joshua was supposed to do.

Joshua received his promises by obeying God, and we will receive our promises by obeying God too. So, what are the Lord's expectations for us, and what is he promising us New Testament parents if we obey him?

The Promises for New Testament Parents

2. The Modern Application. Let's start first by looking at letter A, the promises. First, God promises to be with us. In verses 5 and 9 of this passage, the Lord promises to be with Joshua. He said, I will be with you, I will not fail you or forsake you, and we have similar promises extended to us.

1 Corinthians 3 .16 tells us that the Holy Spirit dwells within his people. That's a glorious reality the Old Testament believers didn't have the same way we do. Quoting from the Old Testament and applying it to us, the author of Hebrews writes, I will never leave you, nor will I ever forsake you.

Philippians 4 .9 tells us that when we obey him, the God of peace will be with us. Then James 4 commands us to draw near to God, and he will draw near to us. And I could just keep going and going and going.

We New Testament believers should definitely grasp hold of God's promises to be with us because we absolutely need that and are called to have it. We cannot parent to his glory without his power and proximity.

The second promise we see in this passage is what I'm going to call personal parental prosperity. Verses 7 and 8 talk about prosperity and success, and though the New Testament offers zero promises of material prosperity for believers, we see abundantly greater promises offered to us.

As a small example, John 15 .4 -5 is the famous passage that tells us that we can only bear fruit in Christ if we are in him. The Philippians 4 passage as well as Romans 8 .5 -6 promises peace. 2 Peter urges believers to add virtue, knowledge, self-control, perseverance, godliness, brotherly kindness and love to their lives through the knowledge of God.

The scriptures promise to show us God's will, give us grace, mercy, joy, and contentment. We're promised that we can be thankful in all things. We know that we have the power of God to pursue the will of God.

We have the promise of answered prayer that aligns with God's plan for us. The Lord promises spiritual growth, a greater understanding of God's truth, deeper fellowship with believers, and so many other glorious truths.

And each of these promises has direct application to our parenting. God is promising me and you that if we follow his expectations for our lives, we can always escape temptation to fear and anger in our parenting.

We can always be patient and wise. We can always know what scriptures to bring to bear in our kids' lives. We can always have the spiritual strength to do the things we need to do, even when we feel like we can't take another step.

This is the personal parental prosperity. It's personal because nowhere in the scriptures does God promise that my actions will cause my kids to quote-unquote turn out right. My actions invite God's personal promises to me.

I can be at peace when my kids are off the rails. I can be loving when my kids are being hateful. It's prosperity in my spiritual life and maturity. I might not always have a big paycheck, but I will always have access to all the spiritual vitality that I will ever need.

And it's parental because, as was mentioned before, each of God's promises has equal application to my parenting as it does to every other facet of my life. So those are the promises for us. God will be with us and prosper us.

But like the majority of the promises all throughout the Bible, these promises are contingent on something. They are conditioned on the fact that we will do our part. So let's turn our eyes to letter B, the expectations.

Be Strong and Courageous by Obeying God

Now here's something interesting. Most of us came to this podcast episode expecting to learn how to be courageous in our parenting. Let's face it, that's literally the name of the episode. But some of you were expecting that courage was going to be one of the promises God had for us.

It's something that must be given to us if we're ever going to have it. But that's not technically true. Interestingly enough, being a courageous parent is actually the very first command God gives us.

Number one, be strong and courageous. Verse six says, be strong and courageous. Verse seven reads, only be strong and very courageous. And verse nine tells us, have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous.

The Hebrew word translated courageous in each of these instances refers to being strong, bold, or superior. It's translated many things, including hardened, encouraged, instilled with exceeding power, made haste, being too strong, strengthened, and even made his heart obstinate.

Now that might confuse us because the Hebrew word right before this word also is translated strong. In fact, nearly all of the translations of this word include the word strong or strength. Now I'm no scholar, but the uniqueness of the word seems to be that the first one translated strong most basically refers to what we think about when we're told that someone is strong.

They're firm. They have big muscles or have hard muscles. The word translated courageous is a different kind of interior strength that, among other things, can produce courage. Merriam-Webster defines courage as mental or moral strength to venture, persevere, and withstand danger, fear, or difficulty.

But where does courage come from? What produces it? From where do we derive the strength? Just for fun, I submitted this to an AI overview. From where do people get the strength to be courageous? The AI overview replied, people find the strength to be courageous by connecting deeply with what they value most, whether standing up for others, surviving personal adversity, or pursuing a challenging goal, courage is fueled by a sense of purpose, supportive relationships, and small repeated acts of bravery that build emotional stamina over time.

Now do you see how individual focus that answer is? Of course it is. In a world where everything boils down to biological causes, obviously we find the answer inside of ourselves, and a machine programmed by people would provide that answer.

However, biblically speaking, we're going to find that the strength to be courageous is not something that's just inherently found in us. Yahweh himself is speaking here directly to Joshua. The Lord very simply commands him to be strong and courageous, and that's an exciting thing about God.

He is so powerful and infinite and majestic and perfect and loving and all-knowing that when he looks at you and matter-of-factly tells you to do something, there's really no arguing with him. And 1 Corinthians 16 .13 tells us, be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong.

Ephesians 6 .10 -13 tells us, be strong in the Lord and in the strength of his might. Hebrews talks often of the confidence that we're to have. In John 16 .33, Jesus tells his disciples, in the world you will have tribulation, but take courage, I have overcome the world.

Just like Joshua, we can see that our courage needs to be rooted in the very God who demands it of us. Without the God on whom we're focused, the courage is impossible. Courage is a choice to take God at face value.

He says, I shouldn't fear, then I won't. God commands me to be courageous, then I will do so in the power he provides. What's interesting is that we're to be courageous in the following expectations the Lord has for us, but it's also in the doing of the other expectations that we grow in courage.

AI's answer concerning courage wasn't all bad though. It talked of value. We speak of trust in God. It spoke of repeated acts of bravery that build emotional stamina over time. We talk of perseverance in Christ.

The second command is tied to the first, only be strong and very courageous to, number two, obey God's commands. Don't turn to the left or to the right. Be careful to do according to all the law of Moses.

In John 14, 15, Jesus says, if you love me, you will keep my commandments. Philippians 2, 12, work out your salvation with fear and trembling. First John 2, 3 through 4 reads, by this we know that we have come to know him if we keep his commandments.

Ephesians 5, 1 through 2 tells us to imitate God. We're told to be holy as the Lord is holy. Philippians 4, 7 says the things you have learned and received and heard and seen in me, practice these things and the God of peace will be with you and on and on and on.

It's very interesting to me how little Christians think about obedience, especially the grown-up ones. You know, unless of course we're thinking about how others need to obey us, you know, like our kids.

Otherwise, I swear we give little thought to our intentional obedience to Christ unless we're simply assuming that we do it. But think about it. Are you obeying God today? Have you obeyed him today? What does it look like for you to obey God today?

And the Lord commands that we keep his law. He commands that we be holy, that we keep the commandments, that we submit, obey, and follow. We can't be courageous if we're disobeying God. Let me say that again.

We cannot be courageous if we're disobeying God. Why? Well, if he's not worth obeying, then we really don't trust in him, do we? One of the key indicators that you're not trusting in the Lord is your sin, whether it's what you're doing or how you're doing it or why you're doing it.

It's impossible to be trusting him while disobeying him because faith, belief, and trust demand obedience. Now, if this is a foreign concept to you, if you thought that faith was simply some churchy word that describes how we feel about God, then please listen to the Mirrors to Christianity series.

I'll link that for you in the description. And if God isn't trustworthy, how on earth can we have courage in and from him? My fellow parent, if you're not feeling courageous, it's because you're not trusting God.

If you're not trusting God, my friend, you're not glorifying him in any area of your life. You're either sinning in what you're doing, how you're doing it, or more often than not, why you're doing it.

Meditating on God's Word and Rejecting Fear

Okay, so how do we obey God's commands? Well, the answer was partially given in the verse we read. Number three, meditate on God's word. How do we know who God is? How do we know his expectations for us?

Well, unlike when Yahweh spoke directly to Joshua, in this day and age, God has seen fit to give us his word. Now, I know that those of you who have listened to these episodes since the beginning, it can be easy for you to think something like, I know this already, Aaron.

You say this all the time. We have to be in the Bible. But here's the thing. The people who are listening right now, who are daily in the Bible, hear me say this truth. They rejoice in it, and they just continue courageously obeying God.

The ones who say, yeah, I know, read the Bible, but what else? Those are the people who aren't courageous in their parenting. They're not trusting God. They're not in his word, and they're not really obeying, even if they seem pretty good when they compare themselves with the world.

Now, if you've never heard that obedience requires the right what, how, and why to be true obedience, Christ honoring obedience, then please listen to our Teach Your Children to Obey series. It will explain it biblically.

God told Joshua, do according to the law which Moses, my servant, commanded you. He then said, this book of the law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do according to all that is written in it.

What do we need to do in order to be careful to obey all that's written in the Bible? We need to meditate on it. Our communication needs to be filled with it. If it's in our heart, it'll be on our tongues, and it'll be in our lives.

That kind of living produces increasing courage, but if I'm not courageous, it's because God's truth isn't in my life, because it's not in my tongue, because it's not in my heart. Do you have a steady diet of attending to the scriptures in personal Bible study?

Are you committing it to memory? Are you meditating on it? Does it consume your speech? If you want to be a courageous parent, you need to be a biblical parent, and it's this kind of parenting that allows us to keep this final command.

Number four, don't be afraid. Again, this isn't the promise he wants to give to us. It's not that we're supposed to do something in order to be able to escape fear. We're to reject fear in order to obey God so that we can be spiritually profitable and with the Lord.

Verse nine ends with, do not be in dread or be dismayed. And again, the ability to obey this command is tied to what we believe about God. The very next words in the verse were, for Yahweh your God is with you wherever you go.

God is with us. He's trustworthy. He knows what's best. He's promised to give us everything we need to please him in our parenting. It's for these reasons and many more that he can command us to be courageous and strong and obedient and studious with his word and reject fear.

Do you want to be a courageous parent? Of course you do. That's why you're here. The answer is obey God. Fill yourself with his word, swim in its depths, submit to all of his expectations, flee from Satan, draw near to the Lord, reject sin, embrace holiness, and you will be a perpetually courageous parent.

God has promised it. And in conclusion, please note that it has nothing really to do with you or the world around you or your kids. You can be courageous even when you know all of your own weaknesses.

The world wants to destroy your family and your kids couldn't care less. You can be courageous because your courage is founded in God, his promises, and his ability to bring them to pass. Please share this episode with anyone you think might want to be a courageous parent.

And if you're still struggling, please email us at counselor at truthloveparent .com or leave a voicemail at 828 -423 -0894 so we can open the scriptures to help you better know and trust the Lord and practically live it out in your life.

Closing Encouragement and Ministry Support

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